I was so busy cooking and schmoozing during our fun Thanksgiving fest that I forgot to take photos. Some family archivist I am! I did manage to take the above picture of Leah and Charlie (in matching holiday orange) at our Thanksgiving table. I wanted to take a group photo of our 12 guests but never got around to it. But given my propensity for living in the past, I guess I shouldn’t fault myself for enjoying the present so much that I neglected to document it for the future!
Other than the photo above, I have this photo my
brother-in-law took of Charlie with our adorable nieces Franny and Hallie. As
usual, I thought there wouldn’t be enough food for our crowd but we
now have enough leftovers to feed the combined reunions of the Osmond and King
families. Anyone for turkey pot pie? I just made turkey soup from the carcass
and will be enjoying roasted brussel sprouts through the week. We had a
wonderful time with family and friends, eating, talking, eating some more,
celebrating Charlie’s first Thanksgiving, and remembering those who couldn’t be
with us. We had a plumbing disaster in the middle of our dinner, leading to a
cascading waterfall of raw sewage in our basement but, given all that we’ve
dealt with this year, we didn’t let it affect our gathering in the least. (In
truth, I refused to even look at the mess until the next day—denial can
sometimes be a very useful survival tool!)
My Chicago family had Thanksgiving at my cousin Sarah’s this year where my sister got a hold of one of my Aunt Bobby’s old photo albums. It included snapshots we had never seen of some of our long-departed relatives. Sue managed to sneak some photos out in her underwear (just kidding, they were very kindly lent for digital scanning) and I was especially thrilled to see the following two pictures of my rarely photographed great-great-grandparents, Moshe (Morris/Moses) and Rivka (Rebecca) Goldkind.
Moshe and Rivka were born in Staszow (Stashev), Poland in the late 1850s, a few years before Abraham Lincoln was elected President. They emigrated to Canada in 1910 with their married daughter, Alta Toba Korolnek (my great-grandmother) and their three other children, Pearl Blima, Gittel Chana, and Harry Goldkin (the final “d” in Goldkind regularly appeared and disappeared over the years). I could stare at these photos for hours, thinking about these Old World relatives and what their lives were like, wishing I could converse with them at length. What a thrill it is to find images I’ve never seen. Zayde Goldkin is sitting here with “Cappy” and “Goldie,” my cousin Goldie Handelsman and her husband Julius Kaplan. Parts of my family tree get very confusing since both my great-great aunts Pearl Blima and Gittel Chana married Handelsman brothers and then two of the Handelsman daughters also married brothers. Goldie married Julius on November 10, 1929. less than two weeks after the stock market crash that brought on the Great Depression. How young and vibrant they look, I wonder if they lost a lot of money in the crash.
As anyone familiar with this blog knows, I am obsessed with
family history, my own, of course, but also other people’s including the Henry
C. Jensen family who were the first inhabitants of our hundred-year-old house.
Henry Jensen was born in Schleswig-Holstein, Germany, the same year as my
great-great-grandfather Moshe Goldkind, though the two men could not have had
more different upbringings. Here is the only other photo I’ve ever seen of my
great-great-grandfather. In this 1939 image, Zayde Goldkind is hanging out with
three of his great-grandchildren, my cousins Diana Saunders, Rhoda (Rivka)
Glickman, and my five-year-old mother on the far right. I look at the date on the photo and can only imagine what would have happened to these folks if they hadn't had the good sense to hightail it out of Poland when they did. None of my relatives who stayed in Staszow survived the war.
Here’s the only other shot of Rivka Goldkind that I’ve
seen, this one taken in the late 1920s or early 1930s with her grandchildren:
my Aunts Ruth and Anne and my Uncle Dave, three of my grandfather’s siblings.
Auntie Anne is still with us, the only surviving child of Itshe Meyer and Alta
Toba Korolnek. She is currently a great-great-grandmother of four.
Why am I so interested in my family now? And why was I so not interested in it when I was a boy and had the chance to interact with the generation that could still remember every nook and cranny of the old shtetl? I’ve been listening to Yiddish songs all weekend on my iPod and yet when I was surrounded by that language as a kid it seemed like nails on a blackboard to me. We always had Thanksgiving with my grandparents, and like all secular holidays we celebrated, our traditions were so blended with Jewish rituals that I half-believed Thanksgiving was a Jewish festival on par with Rosh Hashanah (didn't everyone baste their turkey with chicken fat?). I remember various Old World Thanksgiving visitors at our table, including my ancient Aunt Gittel Chana, my great-grandmother’s sister who lived in Chicago. She was born in Staszow on October 15, 1897 and died in 1973. I doubt I said two words to her in my lifetime. What I wouldn't give for that chance now.
The middle Goldkind girl, Pearl Blima, the one who married
Gittel Chana’s husband’s brother, died in childbirth on June 27, 1927. She had
a difficult time with her pregnancies, bleeding dangerously, and should not
have gotten pregnant again. But her doctor thought that if she had another baby
the problem would correct itself. Instead, both she and the baby died. She was
39 years old. Here is her obituary from the Chicago Tribune along with a photo
I found from her passport application several years earlier. My great-grandmother is called “Tobey
Korolnek” in the obituary but I’ll eat my yarmulke if anyone ever called her
that.
If only I could raise this generation of relatives from the
dead for a few lengthy interviews. What would they think of the lives of their
many descendants? Maybe some of these ultra-orthodox Jews would rise from the
grave on their own volition if they caught wind of my daughter's new
play that opened last night for a four-week run. It’s a professional musical version
of “A Christmas Carol.” Leah plays Martha Cratchitt and Miss Fezziwig and she is absolutely
brilliant, if I may say so. (Here she is at yesterday's opening night party with the actor who played her papa, Mr. Fezziwig.) The cast, consisting of adults and children, is
superb, and I urge you to check it out if you have a chance. It’s playing at
the Lonny Chapman Theatre in North Hollywood through December 20. I’ll be seeing it several more
times before Christmas, and despite the non-Jewish content I hope that if any of my Old World relatives were still
around they would be kvelling over Leah and exclaiming the Yiddish version of
Tiny Tim’s fervent prayer:
“God bless us, everyone!”
Yes indeedy.
And Pearl- is such a cool name.
Love the orange siblings!
Posted by: maggie may | November 29, 2009 at 09:13 PM
Your daughter always strikes me as so grown up, so it's funny a picture of her holding her baby brother makes her seem the most child-like to me. It is a beautiful photo, Danny.
Posted by: heather... | November 29, 2009 at 09:54 PM
Danny,
I'm also fascinated with my family history. I've been plugging away at my family tree for well over a year now. I've made contact with relatives all over the world that I never knew existed. My 4th great grandfather on my fathers side was a "Chief Rabbi". Who knew?
Happy Thanksgiving to you & yours.
Love you, my friend.
Posted by: Wendi Goodman | November 29, 2009 at 10:34 PM
Wonderful photos as always. Like you, I wish I could go back and chat with those long gone. When I was younger I was always a little scared of our dour older German relatives and didn't like to be around them. Now, of course, they are all dead, many years ago already. Even my grandmother, who died about 15 years ago at age 87. If only I had taken them time to ask more questions! Have tried this with my 82-yr.-old mom but it's a trial. She likes to repeat the same things over and over again and tends to get irritable if you try to probe too much. You get the feeling some things she just won't discuss or doesn't care to remember. Yet every now and then something interesting pops out--completely out of context, of course.
Glad you had a nice Thanksgiving!
Posted by: Pam G | November 30, 2009 at 04:24 AM
It wasn't until i read your blog about pogroms did I completely understand why my grandmother came to america with her five brothers. I had never asked her about life in romania and she died before i was interested in her life before becoming a grnadmother and have always regretted it. I asked my father's mother about her life in russia and her trip to America. all she would say was "terrible" and refused to continue.
I am conscious of creating memories now, as we celebrate together ...my small nuclear family, missing those who used to come to celebrate with us but content with our own company.
Posted by: Judy | November 30, 2009 at 09:48 AM
Also notice that the handwriting on all the old photos of my great-grandparents says "Goldkin" - no "D".
Posted by: Alan "Where's the D?" Goldkin | November 30, 2009 at 10:06 AM
I know, Alan, my "Goldkind" argument is getting weaker by the minute. We need to see the name written in Yiddish on some Polish tombstone for the final verdict.
Posted by: Danny | November 30, 2009 at 11:04 AM
Happy Belated Thanksgiving!
Posted by: churlita | November 30, 2009 at 11:28 AM
Happy albiet a little late Thanksgiving to you and your wonderful family! Miss you and have lots to tell you. Wish we were coming out there soon - can't wait to meet and hold Charlie.
Posted by: Danusia | November 30, 2009 at 11:57 AM
Dear Danny,
Isn't it great to discover old photographs of our long gone relatives ? Just a few days ago, I received a picture of about 20 family members gathered together for Christmas................ in 1916 !
-Gordon
Posted by: Gordon | November 30, 2009 at 03:02 PM
LOVE this post, Danny. Your current family photos are great...Leah and Charlie definitely look related.
Thanksgiving for Jews....we always have appetizers of chopped herring and chopped liver w/rye bread! Add to the traditional dinner a bowl of kasha mit varnishkes and it's poifect!
Posted by: Ellen B. | November 30, 2009 at 05:32 PM
The photo of my father-in-law Dave could be a photo of Asher's youngest Ira, or even his son Mickey. Amazing...
Posted by: Marci Karoll | November 30, 2009 at 06:21 PM
Hi Danny,
How sad that most of us weren't that interested in where our grandparents and great grandparents came from and what their lives were like. Like some of your family, my father's family did not come to America when he and his brothers did in the early 1900's, so I never knew them. I would give anything now as a 75 year old to have known about them. I know your Charlie. because of you, will always know about his ancestors. Keep telling him about them. Looking forward to seeing you, Kendall and Charlie very soon.
Love,
Bubbie Marilyn
Posted by: Marilyn Molnar | November 30, 2009 at 07:18 PM
Beautiful post! Love reading about your family's history.
Look at that adorable little boy of yours! Oh my goodness... Charlie has gotten sooo big! Love the leg rolls! What a cutie! =)
Glad you all had a wonderful T'giving!
Posted by: Beth | November 30, 2009 at 08:57 PM
Coulda,Woulda,Soulda I know what you mean about embrassing the family's past history. As we get older our roots seem more important, we want to know as much as possible. I would give anything to be able to have a long chat with the family members gone past. When we were younger and had the opportunity it didn't seem important. Maybe we thought these people would be in our lives forever they weren't going anywhere. When we got older we appreciate their insights. I wish I could have the time back. I have one aunt left 3000 miles away. Looks like a trip could be in order.
Posted by: Patsy | December 01, 2009 at 08:12 AM
Thanks for the family history lesson. I love these old stories and photos... Even when my great-uncle Davey was a kid he wore his pants to his pipick!
To introduce myself: I am your cousin Jillian Korolnek, Steve's daughter. Not too sure how exactly we are related but we have the same great-grandparents.
Glad I found your blog! And if you ever manage to resurrect the dead for interviews I'd love to be there.
Take care,
Jillian
Posted by: Jillian Korolnek | December 09, 2009 at 12:22 AM
My grandmothers name was Goldie too.
My grandmother used to use the word "dreck".
You sometimes use the word "dreck" in your blog.
It makes me happy when I hear the word "dreck" used in a sentence.
And I loved the way she said it too. It Ruled!
Did you see the movie "Avalon"? (from past reads of your blog, something tells me the answer is yes. In fact, you probably already have some sort of amusing anecdote about it somewhere.)
The opening scene where they were having the Thanksgiving dinner?
Uncle-The father never drank the water
Nephew-Wait..when exactly did you say he drank water?
Uncle-He NEVER drank water!
Nephew-I'm just saying at some point, he MUST have had some water.
Uncle-The father NEVER drank the water!
Or something to that effect. I don't know. It just kinda popped into my head.
Posted by: Andrea | December 14, 2009 at 12:06 AM
I am just catching up on your blog. I'm glad the family is doing well. Thanks for sharing the photos! Have a healthy New Year!
Posted by: Cousin Scott | January 02, 2010 at 01:12 PM