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April 29, 2009


Long time reader, not usually a commenter...

I am sooo sorry to hear of your loss! You and Kendall and Charlie are in my prayers. Thanks for keeping us updated through this trying time.

As others have said, I feel as though I know you through reading your blog and was very saddened to read about the loss of your baby Oliver.

I send my deepest sympathy to you and your family and my prayers to little Charlie.


My hand is on my heart. I'm so terribly sorry. I will pray for Charles, your wife, and you. My humble and deep sympathies to you all.
Blessings, Chris

my heart goes out to you and kendall. I am so sorry that you are faced with this devastation. We will be sending you love and strength for Charlie's health in the days to come.

We're keeping you, Kendall, Leah, Oliver and Charlie in our thoughts and prayers. God bless you all!

I'm new to your blog, but your news made me cry too. I'm so sorry.

I am so sorry that you are faced with this awful news. I heart goes out to you, Leah and Kendall. Much love and strength to you and baby Charlie.

This is so unbelievable! I am so sorry for the loss of your son Oliver, and yet I rejoice for you that Charles is your miracle from the tragedy. I pray that he will strengthen and grow tall and handsome and happy.


You - you alone will have the stars as no one else has them...In one of the stars I shall be living. In one of them I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing, when you look at the sky at night...You - only you - will have stars that can laugh."
— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

I am so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry for you and your family. My prayers are with you and for Charlie.

Debbie Wolosky

Dear Danny and Kendall,
I just heard the sad news from BCC and then I read your blog for the whole story. I hope you find some strength from all the folks who care so much about all three of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I will continue to follow your blog and keep you all in my heart.
Ilene (a.k.a Hershel the puppet's owner)


I am amazed and inspired that you can write about this so soon. Sending love to you and Kendall, and brilliant light to Olivier and Charles.



I'm so terribly sorry Danny. Please know that I will keep you, Kendall and your entire family in my prayers. I'm really so awfully sorry.

Danny and Kendall - I haven't stopped thinking about you both and what you've been through since I heard. My heart is breaking for your loss and praying for little Charlie. May you find peace in this most difficult time. I wish I were there to help in any way I can. LAP

Oh Danny, I am so, so, so sorry to hear this horrific news. Our thoughts and prayers are most definitely with you and Kendall during this difficult time. Hoping for strength and nothing but the best for dear little Charlie. Love, Emily


My deepest sympathies to you and Kendall. You don't know me, but I've enjoyed reading your blog entries for many months. We're about the same age and have a few other things in common. I became a dad for the first time a little over four years ago, with the birth of twin boys, and was looking forward to reading about your experiences. I know that life is fragile and strange and is to be cherished. You and your family are in my thoughts.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I read your blog and enjoy it, although never comment, but I wanted to delurk to just sayhow sad I am and how I hope and pray that all goes well with Charlie and Kendall and you. May Oliver rest with love and peace.

I am so very very sorry for your loss. There are no words of comfort I can offer for the loss of a child and our thoughts are with you in this very difficult time.

The only thing I can offer you is that my neighbor had a son last year that was only 1lb 3oz and had both the hole in the heart and brain bleeding that you have experienced. He gained weight faster than expected and was released two MONTHS early. Hoping that your son recovers equally well.

I was so very sorry to read this, Danny. My thoughts are with you and your family, especially with Charlie.

I have read with great anticipation of your wonderful gifts and am now so sad to hear of your loss. Grieving while celebrating must be so difficult. Thank you for sharing the blessings and unfathomable turns that life brings. It is all too real and I hope you find strength from everyone's love and best wishes. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dear Danny,
I am so very sorry to read the news of your wife's emergency delivery of the twins and the loss of Oliver.
I walked a very similar path about 10 years ago and it is painful. Please be sure that while you are caring for your tiny guy Charles you stay close to Kendall and try to keep your lives somewhat normal for Leah. Each person in the family copes with these challenges in a different way and communication can be difficult.
Lots of love to you all, Julie Voss

Oy Danny & heart aches for you and your precious loss...My prayers are with all of you...with affection, marsha

Danny, My prayers are with you and your beautiful family. I long to be there and give you a hug and look forward to the day I can see you after so long and do just that. Charles is blessed with wonderful parents...and Oliver will be watching over him I'm sure. Everyone here in Chicago is thinking about you with deep sorrow and love. Bless you Danny and hope to see you soon. Love, Esther, Ed and Jesse

Oh Danny...I am so so SO Sorry to read of this heartbreaking loss...My heart goes out to you and Kendal and to little delicate Charles....Prayers and Humming and whatever else I can do, will be coming your way....
I haven't beem here for many days and so missed this mixed news! I am so sad for youand Kendall at the loss of Oliver Thomas, AND, equally Happy for you at the Birth of your other son, Charles. ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) To You Three!

Dear Danny-

In the whirlwind of life believe there are miracles. Right now you know your miracle is Charlie. How sad one life sacrificed for another. How absurd the universe is. We think there is no rhyme or reason. But, Oliver is a life, though here for a short time, that has changed many lives so profoundly. He's an angel watching over his brother. He is your son. And although you have exchanged no words with him he has changed your mind about many things. He in his own way will always be your miracle too.
Take care. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sorry to hear about little Oliver. I hope Charlie will pull through.

thinking of you and your family.

Oh, Danny. Deborah told me just the other day. There are no words. Only a long silence in which I hold you and Kendall and Charlie and Leah in my heart. Eden, my youngest, was a twin...who was lost much, much earlier in pregnancy, but still I feel that much of Eden's inherent sweetness and compassion and empathy for all living things comes from having once been part of two. We can hope that Charlie's loss will inspire the same goodness in him. In fact, I feel certain it will. Sending you many, many hugs and much love.

My heart breaks for anyone on this journey. My son was born still on Apr 1, and I continue to wish that no one would ever have to start down this dark road... I'm sorry your babies aren't back in their mommy's tummy, growing and healthy, and I'm so very sorry that Oliver isn't next to his brother right this very moment. Lots of love and healing thoughts and prayers for all of you on this path.

Danny, I am so terribly sorry about baby Oliver. I have been away from blogging for the past few weeks so I hadn't seen your news. I will be praying for baby Charlie and your family. I want you and Kendall to know about my cousin's baby girl Brierre. She was also born at 24 weeks and today she is a completely healthy and normal eight year old. G-d Bless.

Danny, I just found your blog through Vicki Forman. I'm so sorry for your loss, and that you're having to live through the NICU. No parent and no baby should have to go through it. I'm a preemie mom, as well, and I know so many parents of 24-weekers. I'll keep you all in my thoughts, and I'm sending germ-free, strong lung thoughts. I'll check back for more of your story.

All my best,

I found your blog via Quinn's, and I'm so sorry to hear this. It strikes a chord with me, though, because almost that's more or less the way I entered the world. Second of a set of twins, one of whom didn't make it. I was in the hospital for 7 weeks before they let me come home to my parents. It was more than a week before my mother got to hold me, and she never even saw my twin, Susan. (Though, this was um, quite a few years ago, so things have changed.)

I know this is an older post, and am relieved to know that Charlie is thriving, but had to leave a comment anyway.

Hi there, I am Chris (Skylers Dad). I came over here on the recommendation of Churlita, after I wrote about fathers day with my son in his 19th year. He was born 3 months early, and I share your pain with the whole NICU situation.

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