Five years ago right now Kendall and I were on the bimah of our synagogue, Beth Chayim Chadashim, tying the knot. I wrote about our wedding four years ago today on our Paper Anniversary. Apparently Year 5 is the Wooden Anniversary. Who makes these things up? But it works for me.
I think I talked back then about how Kendall’s book brought us together. I met her at a wedding in 1989 after having just read her wonderful book, I recognized her from the photo on the cover, and introduced myself. True, it took more than 15 years for us to truly get together after that but paper and wood have always played a significant role in our relationship. We purchased our home because of the gorgeous hundred-year-old woodwork and we worship all forms of old wooden antiques. One of our favorite spots on earth and one of our biggest splurges was two nights at the Savoy Hotel in London, a testament to the finest wood craftsmanship in the world.
Not long after our wedding we began our very long journey through infertility. This culminated in the births of our sons last month, way too early and cloaked in tragedy with the death of our son Oliver. Still, with our beloved Charles wishing us a happy anniversary today, safely from his incubator, his desats calming down and his oxygen levels improving, it seems like the best anniversary gift ever. Beth Chayim Chadashim, the name of our synagogue, means “House of New Life,” and I can’t think of a better description of Charlie’s current home.
Every time I walk into the NICU, I touch this sign and kiss my hand as if it were a holy mezuzah. (You should see the looks I get from the medical staff!) One year on our anniversary Kendall and I went to Vegas and saw Steve and Eydie in action. I know that dates us but we don’t care—we love those two and knowing they donated their hard-earned money to the very structure that is keeping our son alive, they are our permanent heroes. So here’s to you, Steve and Eydie! Kendall, here is a video of Charlie from just a few minutes ago, wishing his mom the happiest anniversary. We both love you!